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Hello my loves,
So as promised I’m trying to stay more consistent with blogs…….So This one fits into a lot of other blog ideas I have but I just had to at least start on this topic because to me it is one of the most ignored issues today and one of the worst problems with people and how they act.
Now lately I’ve been asking myself and others I’ve spoken with “When did people get so mean to one another?” “Why do people judge others so much?” “Have people always been this mean?” “Was I just completely oblivious to it?” OR “Is it just easier with technology these days to bully and belittle others?”
Well I would say the last idea is probably right. I think kids and people have always been mean and horrible to one another it’s just so much easier now than ever with twitter, facebook, cell phones, blogs, etc. I’m bringing this topic up because I’ve just been seeing it so much in the last year or so and with girls especially. Girls are so caddy and backstabbing with each other, they will be nice and hang out with a girl and then the next day be slagging her off and making fun of her? What is the point of this? In my opinion most people and girls do this out of pure insecurity and unhappiness. No one that’s truly happy constantly talks badly of others without being provoked in doing so and also, do these girls or people think they seem “cool” by doing this? Speaking about their so called friends? You look silly! If I hear a girl slagging another girl off for no reason I always think to myself, “Wow, what’s really going on with her to say these things?” Girls also judge each other way too much, it’s like they just wait for someone to mess up so they have something to talk about at coffee…..Omg, Get a life, that’s so sad and pathetic! You clearly can’t have much going on if your convo’s are also involving others in a negative way.
Another thing that I find horrible is forums, websites, blogs dissing people, judging them or how they look or bringing up their past and who they used to be or things they’ve done etc. I see pictures of my celeb friends online and then see a handful of negative comments like “She’s not even pretty” Or “Why is she even in the media, no one cares?” OR “Oh, she used to be quite heavy, she didn’t come from a good family” Etc. It’s like why the hell do people go on these sites and take time out of THEIR OWN lives to write mean things? O Yeah! I’ll tell you why, BOREDOM, SADNESS, IMMATURITY! Does it honestly matter what this person does with their life? Does it matter where they came from or where they grew up? If their family was rich or poor or what kind of house they had??? Honestly? Who cares?? Most big celebs weren’t rich, they weren’t cool in High school. They weren’t very attractive! BUT they made something of themselves! They had a dream and goals and they followed those dreams! That my friend, is also why people are haters, because most of those people hiding behind their computers saying mean and uncalled for things, they are unhappy, they haven’t fulfilled their goals, and they want to diss others because maybe they think it’s funny (immaturity) OR maybe it makes them feel better to belittle others! You know what they say “Misery Loves company” I don’t know one happy girl or guy that sits around bad mouthing people to others or via the internet! They just don’t do that! The ONLY way I can see that happening is if maybe this person hurt them or did something to them and they are retaliating or just being immature. Hell, I am not perfect, I’ve done some pretty low and mean things, but never without a reason. I’ve hurt people on purpose because they hurt me! No, I do not condone this in anyway! I regret those things I’ve done. They were immature, impulsive, and irrational! I am always striving to be a better person, a nicer person, and a great friend. I think I have come along way as far as how I handle rude people or people who hurt me. For the most part you have to just shake it off and know that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. I’ve seen mean, horrible, and untrue things written about me or heard people that have said such cruel, untrue things with me, and yes at the time, it does hurt. It’s never nice to hear or see. I mean think about it,wWhen you want to be mean or say something mean to or about something. “How would you feel if that was said to or about you”? I try to let it go and just think, I feel bad for that person, for them to go out of their way and stop their lives to belittle me or to write untrue things about me….Man, they must be really unhappy or bored…….and I HATE saying this because it always can sound bad, but girls are always jealous of other girls……That’s just a common fact and any human who tries to say that girls aren’t sometimes mean or horrible to others out of pure jealously has not been around many girls or is delusional.
What happened to being nice? Being happy for people and building each other up? What happened to helping people succeed and wanting them too? It’s so much like people get bitter on their own choices in life, that they get mad at others for making the right choices or better ones…Why does it have to be like this? I just think everyone needs to think before they talk about someone, think what and why they are really saying those things? Gosh, half the time, when I’ve heard people say mean things about me I don’t even really know the people nor do they know me or they knew me back 6 or so years ago and haven’t spoken or seen me since. Crazily enough friends, I think it’s quite obvious that people change, they mature, they grow up, they make better choices. So because you knew someone at one point of their lives doens’t mean they are still that person years later. That’s just silly to even assume! Also people get an idea that if someone looks a certain way they will be horrible, stuck up, or mean people. I’m quite confident and happy with myself and my looks and I’m nice and always polite! I love making new friends and I will always be friends with anyone until they give me a reason not to. I often hear things about girls and I still will always give them a chance and see for myself what kind of person they are because that is what a mature, confident, secure woman would do! She would have HER OWN opinionson something or someone and not need to follow a crowds opinion. I have lots of girlfriends that my other friends don’t really like. It’s okay to do this. It’s not bad, you just need to understand that certain people don’t mesh well or don’t relate on the same level. It’s normal and okay to do!!!! Find time for both people and always be a good friend to both groups! No talking behind back girls! It’s just mean, immature, caddy and not what good friends and people do! Talk about other things rather than people! :)
I want everyone reading this to know that in the end, it doesn’t matter if you are tall or short, skinny or heavy, pretty or average, rich or poor, people will ALWAYS find something to bully you about, they will always find a flaw as if there is some kind of reward for it! Sad people will always be mean…..It doesn’t matter! You just always must remember AGAIN, it is NOT about you, it’s all about them and what is going on in THEIR life, sometimes maybe their parents didn’t raise them well and didn’t teach them manners or how to act humane. Sometimes they are so insecure of themselves, their looks, weight, or social status that they will knock you down just to feel a little better about their situation. Whatever the reason, don’t let it get you down! (An example of this would be in college I gained like 10 pounds from eating horribly and drinking a lot and a lot of girls I knew were talking about how I had gained weight, I was still quite small but it was something for them to be mean about and then after a year or so I lost it all being healthy and cutting down on the junk food and drinking, and they started talking about how skinny I was and calling me anorexic or other hurtful names)…..People are never happy and if they want to, they will always find something to diss you for. just remember you are you and you should remain who you are. Not everyone will agree or praise you for it. You will always have mean people trying to bring you down but you must stay strong, be proud of where you came and let it go! Let it fuel you fire and drive to succeed even more! They will really hate them!
Remember life is a beautiful journey, sometimes it’s better for some than others but it’s all up to you, it doesn’t matter where you came from or who you used to be! (people will always try to use your mistakes against you but let it go, you’ve moved on from them, pity them for still being stuck on YOUR mistakes from long ago! Again, it matters who you are NOW and where you INTEND to go! Forget the hate and stay focused on doing YOU! Life is all about what you make it, so let go of it all, all the negativity, all the judgment, and all the comments and be the very best you can be! You will realize later who is worth keeping around and who is worth shaking off! Once you realize that, the journey will get even easier! ;) Love and Light to you all! Good Luck in accomplishing all your dreams! You can all do anything you want! JUST DO IT! :) XOXO KJ
One last thing, just remember, when people are mean to you, just think to yourself, “MISERY LOVES COMPANY” and don’t feed into the negitivity! :D You are all awesome and deserve the very best and happiness is the most important! :D Love yourselves!
(A little rushed, forgive me for the grammar, much like a lot of my blogs, I’m a bit lazy when it comes to proof reading) :P XO
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