Hello my lovies,

So I thought this was just a good idea for a post because it’s something that has been, can be or is an issue in every relationship, friendship and just issue in general. There are two main areas in life these things come up. In a new relationship or hell even in a “not so new” relationship and then also in a friendship or when just hearing people discuss other people. This post’s audience can be both men and women because frankly both have to deal with this issue, some more than others.

So touching base on “Hear Say” So, let’s say you are having coffee with a friend and you start discussing someone, say a new girl that’s come into the group or a girl someone is dating. Firstly, if it is someone you don’t know you shouldn’t really be discussing them at all in the negative, but pretend you have met this person a few times and they seem great but they have a “past”. Let’s pretend you’ve heard really bad things about their past or who they were in high-school, college, or where they used to live, or in their old relationship! Ok I don’t know ONE single person that hasn’t done something in their past they don’t wish maybe they hadn’t, I don’t know anyone who can say they didn’t regret anything, they hadn’t been mean to someone or they were the utmost best person they could be. We are ALL human. We make mistakes! That is exactly how you learn, and you continue to make mistakes, hopefully not the same ones, but you make mistakes to grow, to see what you want in life and what you want to change, you do things maybe you didn’t know were so wrong at the time, or you do them because you don’t realize who or what you are hurting or to the extent of the hurt. You do stupid things when you are young for various reasons but mostly inexperience and being naive and immature, or maybe you go through phases. I have to say, it’s unfair to judge someone on their past as people are constantly growing and learning and deciding what they want in life. Every single year people go through changes, they mature and wizen. Who I was when I was 18 and 19….Is nowhere near the woman I am today….Hell, the girl I was when I was 21 is nothing close to the person I am today, but all throughout those mistakes, wrong doing’s, and experiences have I grown into the better person I am now! If I hadn’t made all those careless mistakes some small, some a little bigger would I know the things I know now? No, probably not. So if you are making a new friend, guy or girl, judge them on the person they are NOW, not what you hear from others, not from who they were 4 years ago but the person they are now. If they show they are a trustworthy, caring, good person then build something on that. I can’t elaborate enough how time changes people and in my opinion timing is everything! If you meet someone when they are young, immature, and a bit careless, say this person hurts you, well years down the road know that maybe it wasn’t that person now but who they were then that hurt you, the timing you had or met them, and think of how much they have grown and matured since. :) Everyone has a past like I’ve said, and some people have a lot worse, some people have made a lot more mistakes to become who they are now but again, give them a chance based on who they are now. IF they still seem to be that person you’ve heard about or they still have those negative, immature tendencies and you don’t want to deal with it, then get out! There are so many people you can be friends with, there is no need to be friends with someone that isn’t a good person. There is also so many people willing to be wonderful partners there is no reason to be with a liar, cheater, or player. You are special and you should be with someone who treats you how you should be treated! All of you!

Ok now the next situation, let’s assume this is a boyfriend or girlfriend or someone you may want to date…….Ok so we are all adults here…..Well, most of my readers are I think….We all know that when we date someone we aren’t their first and we may not be their last. EVERYONE has ex’s….(well, ok, most people have dated) It’s normal, that’s life! People need to date different people to find out and know what they want in someone. I of all people think it’s good to date and experiment with people before you find that “one person” you want to marry so you know exactly what you want and also the things you don’t want or can’t deal with in a relationship. It is totally fine to find out someone’s past….If you are in a serious relationship you should know a lot about your partner. Good and Bad. I promise there will be things in your partners past that you don’t like or that you don’t want to hear but firstly respect that the person had the courage to tell you their wrongdoings or about their past relationships and their mistakes in their past relationships, ie cheating, lying, etc. and for the love, you MUST leave the past in the past. We all have one so it’s not fair to hold it against someone or judge them by it. People change all the time, they find reasons to change…….So many of my girlfriends have dated guys that were seen to be “unattainable”, ones that couldn’t be faithful, didn’t want to settle, or were just single and slept around…..These girls knew their guys reputation but like any guy will tell you, there is always that girl that will change you and I don’t just mean guys, women are like this also. I have to admit in the past I had a very hard time being an honest g.f, I wasn’t a horrible gf ever (My exs will probably beg to differ…:P)  but I wasn’t great at times, and I knew that eventually I would find a guy that would settle my butt down and make me be the perfect gf I’ve always wanted to be…You just need a reason to change, and everyone will find their someone. It’s also about timing as well, some guys and girls are certain ways when they are younger because again lack of experience, they don’t plan on getting married anytime soon, or they are just passing the time. AGAIN, this is all someone’s past, you can not judge them or the relationship they have with you based on it. You must be an adult and accept their past and them and be confident with who they are now that you don’t need to worry about things…..plus this will make you a way cooler b/f or g/f! :P hehe!

Now, if the past creeps in, say someone comes in from their past uninvited then simply find out why, it’s not a big deal, you CAN believe it or not still remain friends with people you’ve dated depending on the circumstance, so if an ex comes into the picture don’t have a cow and flip out, if you do you will look silly but also this will make your gf or bf scared to be honest with you! So just keep cool and find out who the person is and why they’ve come up. Also say tendencies from the past come up, say this person was a serious cheater, they cheated on their ex and now they are acting a bit shady or you have caught them lying, well girl….or boy….I’d be attentive and know that this person may not be the person you want and maybe they still don’t wanna settle. The past may just be repeating itself. BUT unless you have a reason though you can not punish someone for who they USED to be. It’s just unfair, as for the zillionth time, people change, all the time! Also the quote, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” is BS. It’s not true, yes there may be guys or girls out there that are 40 and still can’t be faithful to one person and wow bummer for them but I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater! I’ve cheated before….multiple times, but I am not a cheater now. I think most people I know actually have cheated, most guys I’ve dated have cheated, some of my girlfriends have cheated on their boyfriends……..Doesn’t mean they cheat now. Some surely do, but I know some guys I’ve dated or are friends with have grown up a lot since they were in their early 20′s or they have been cheated on and now know what it feels like, or they have just found that one person that they don’t want to lose. Whatever their reason, just because someone was a player or a slut or experimented in their past doesn’t mean that’s who they are in their adult life or who they are in your particular relationship, People are different in every relationship and they value certain relationships higher than others.That’s life and sometimes it’s being young!  Isn’t that what young is about, being free, breaking hearts, getting your heart broken, making silly mistakes just to learn and become a better person? I think so!

So wrapping this up because I know this blog is very scatter brained I just want to go over the important things. Don’t judge someone on who they used to be, don’t bring people’s pasts up to hurt them especially if they have confided in you and been honest or told you about it. Don’t assume because a girl was a bitch, diva, slut, she still is, and don’t assume because a guy was a womanizer, player, dickhead, selfish scumbag, he still is. Ha, those are just a few examples. Also if you want to ask about someone’s past and you want the honest truth then you must be prepared for it. You must be willing to hear it and accept it, if you can’t then you don’t really deserve to know. People will always be more open to you if you don’t judge them and you don’t cause a huge fuss over something they did before they knew you! Everyone is guilty of this but we should all really judge people for who they are now, understand and forgive their past mistakes, and love them for who they are. We are always so quick to judge, we always look into everyone’s negatives before looking at the good qualities in them. Let’s all, let go, become great friends and partners and accept that everyone has a past, accept it and leave it there. Focus on the “Now” and the “Future” That’s what is important. You won’t have a successful friendship or relationship if you are stuck in the past or keep bringing it up, it just won’t work…You must accept it and move on and be as positive as you can! :) We are all human! ;) “The past is practice” Love and Light to you all! Sorry again, if I’m repetitive or everywhere in my writing! This sunny day is really distracting me! :) Have a lovely week everyone! All my Love!

XOXO KJ

Hello my loves,

So as promised I’m trying to stay more consistent with blogs…….So This one fits into a lot of other blog ideas I have but I just had to at least start on this topic because to me it is one of the most ignored issues today and one of the worst problems with people and how they act.

Now lately I’ve been asking myself and others I’ve spoken with “When did people get so mean to one another?” “Why do people judge others so much?” “Have people always been this mean?” “Was I just completely oblivious to it?” OR “Is it just easier with technology these days to bully and belittle others?”

Well I would say the last idea is probably right. I think kids and people have always been mean and horrible to one another it’s just so much easier now than ever with twitter, facebook, cell phones, blogs, etc. I’m bringing this topic up because I’ve just been seeing it so much in the last year or so and with girls especially. Girls are so caddy and backstabbing with each other, they will be nice and hang out with a girl and then the next day be slagging her off and making fun of her? What is the point of this? In my opinion most people and girls do this out of pure insecurity and unhappiness. No one that’s truly happy constantly talks badly of others without being provoked in doing so and also, do these girls or people think they seem “cool” by doing this? Speaking about their so called friends? You look silly! If I hear a girl slagging another girl off for no reason I always think to myself, “Wow, what’s really going on with her to say these things?” Girls also judge each other way too much, it’s like they just wait for someone to mess up so they have something to talk about at coffee…..Omg, Get a life, that’s so sad and pathetic! You clearly can’t have much going on if your convo’s are also involving others in a negative way.

Another thing that I find horrible is forums, websites, blogs dissing people, judging them or how they look or bringing up their past and who they used to be or things they’ve done etc. I see pictures of my celeb friends online and then see a handful of negative comments like “She’s not even pretty” Or “Why is she even in the media, no one cares?” OR “Oh, she used to be quite heavy, she didn’t come from a good family” Etc. It’s like why the hell do people go on these sites and take time out of THEIR OWN lives to write mean things? O Yeah! I’ll tell you why, BOREDOM, SADNESS, IMMATURITY! Does it honestly matter what this person does with their life? Does it matter where they came from or where they grew up? If their family was rich or poor or what kind of house they had??? Honestly? Who cares?? Most big celebs weren’t rich, they weren’t cool in High school. They weren’t very attractive! BUT they made something of themselves! They had a dream and goals and they followed those dreams! That my friend, is also why people are haters, because most of those people hiding behind their computers saying mean and uncalled for things, they are unhappy, they haven’t fulfilled their goals, and they want to diss others because maybe they think it’s funny (immaturity) OR maybe it makes them feel better to belittle others! You know what they say “Misery Loves company” I don’t know one happy girl or guy that sits around bad mouthing people to others or via the internet! They just don’t do that! The ONLY way I can see that happening is if maybe this person hurt them or did something to them and they are retaliating or just being immature. Hell, I am not perfect, I’ve done some pretty low and mean things, but never without a reason. I’ve hurt people on purpose because they hurt me! No, I do not condone this in anyway! I regret those things I’ve done. They were immature, impulsive, and irrational! I am always striving to be a better person, a nicer person, and a great friend. I think I have come along way as far as how I handle rude people or people who hurt me. For the most part you have to just shake it off and know that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. I’ve seen mean, horrible, and untrue things written about me or heard people that have said such cruel, untrue things with me, and yes at the time, it does hurt. It’s never nice to hear or see. I mean think about it,wWhen you want to be mean or say something mean to or about something. “How would you feel if that was said to or about you”? I try to let it go and just think, I feel bad for that person, for them to go out of their way and stop their lives to belittle me or to write untrue things about me….Man, they must be really unhappy or bored…….and I HATE saying this because it always can sound bad, but girls are always jealous of other girls……That’s just a common fact and any human who tries to say that girls aren’t sometimes mean or horrible to others out of pure jealously has not been around many girls or is delusional.

What happened to being nice? Being happy for people and building each other up? What happened to helping people succeed and wanting them too? It’s so much like people get bitter on their own choices in life, that they get mad at others for making the right choices or better ones…Why does it have to be like this? I just think everyone needs to think before they talk about someone, think what and why they are really saying those things? Gosh, half the time, when I’ve heard people say mean things about me I don’t even really know the people nor do they know me or they knew me back 6 or so years ago and haven’t spoken or seen me since. Crazily enough friends, I think it’s quite obvious that people change, they mature, they grow up, they make better choices. So because you knew someone at one point of their lives doens’t mean they are still that person years later. That’s just silly to even assume! Also people get an idea that if someone looks a certain way they will be horrible, stuck up, or mean people. I’m quite confident and happy with myself and my looks and I’m nice and always polite! I love making new friends and I will always be friends with anyone until they give me a reason not to. I often hear things about girls and I still will always give them a chance and see for myself what kind of person they are because that is what a mature, confident, secure woman would do! She would have HER OWN opinionson something or someone and not need to follow a crowds opinion. I have lots of girlfriends that my other friends don’t really like. It’s okay to do this. It’s not bad, you just need to understand that certain people don’t mesh well or don’t relate on the same level. It’s normal and okay to do!!!!  Find time for both people and always be a good friend to both groups! No talking behind back girls! It’s just mean, immature, caddy and not what good friends and people do! Talk about other things rather than people! :)

I want everyone reading this to know that in the end, it doesn’t matter if you are tall or short, skinny or heavy, pretty or average, rich or poor, people will ALWAYS find something to bully you about, they will always find a flaw as if there is some kind of reward for it! Sad people will always be mean…..It doesn’t matter! You just always must remember AGAIN, it is NOT about you, it’s all about them and what is going on in THEIR life, sometimes maybe their parents didn’t raise them well and didn’t teach them manners or how to act humane. Sometimes they are so insecure of themselves, their looks, weight, or social status that they will knock you down just to feel a little better about their situation. Whatever the reason, don’t let it get you down! (An example of this would be in college I gained like 10 pounds from eating horribly and drinking a lot and a lot of girls I knew were talking about how I had gained weight, I was still quite small but it was something for them to be mean about and then after a year or so I lost it all being healthy and cutting down on the junk food and drinking, and they started talking about how skinny I was and calling me anorexic or other hurtful names)…..People are never happy and if they want to, they will always find something to diss you for. just remember you are you and you should remain who you are. Not everyone will agree or praise you for it. You will always have mean people trying to bring you down but you must stay strong, be proud of where you came and let it go! Let it fuel you fire and drive to succeed even more! They will really hate them!

Remember life is a beautiful journey, sometimes it’s better for some than others but it’s all up to you, it doesn’t matter where you came from or who you used to be! (people will always try to use your mistakes against you but let it go, you’ve moved on from them, pity them for still being stuck on YOUR mistakes from long ago! Again, it matters who you are NOW and where you INTEND to go! Forget the hate and stay focused on doing YOU! Life is all about what you make it, so let go of it all, all the negativity, all the judgment, and all the comments and be the very best you can be! You will realize later who is worth keeping around and who is worth shaking off! Once you realize that, the journey will get even easier! ;) Love and Light to you all! Good Luck in accomplishing all your dreams! You can all do anything you want! JUST DO IT! :) XOXO KJ

One last thing, just remember, when people are mean to you, just think to yourself, “MISERY LOVES COMPANY” and don’t feed into the negitivity! :D You are all awesome and deserve the very best and happiness is the most important! :D Love yourselves!

(A little rushed, forgive me for the grammar, much like a lot of my blogs, I’m a bit lazy when it comes to proof reading) :P XO

Hello girlies,

So, I have been getting so many facebook messages about how clear my skin is and asking what foundation I use etc. I figure this is much easier than replying to each and every one of you! Firstly, ALWAYS use moisturizer! ALWAYS! I yell at my BF for this all the time……Make up won’t go on dry skin well. It will looks flaky and not nice. Every time you wash your face after you should always be using it.

Now before you start your make up I recommend using a primer, the best one I have found is SmashBox’s photo finish primer. I have both, the light and heavy depending how long you want your make up to stay on. Not only does the primer keep your make up on longer but it fills in fine lines and wrinkles and makes your foundation go on a lot smoother. Now for my foundation, I have to say, unlike my other make up, (which is a little more on the costly side) my foundation is just……….L’Oreal True match liquid foundation. It’s like 7 bucks at the drugstore (CVS, Rite aid) They don’t sell it in the UK or France that I’ve seen in the liquid form so my mom sends me a few bottles whenever I need a stock up. It’s amazing, smooth, and I have used it for years! It makes skin just flawless but isn’t too heavy like Mac studio fix foundation and stays on longer than a Dior foundation. Go try it my girls, make sure you match your skin color and get the right tone. I don’t want it to look orange, pink, or blueish toned on you. To get an idea for color, I wear N3 during the day, and N4 at night, If my face is tanned (Normally never, but if I’ve been on Holiday) I would wear an N5. My skin is Neutral so hence the “N”. If you are warmer or cooler than obviously get the W colors or the C colors…..:) Ok I hope this helps!!!!

One last thing about photos……I have gotten asked if I’ve photoshopped my pics, like normal pics….This made me LOL, I would never need to retouch a candid photo and anyone that does that….Well, Honey, that’s silly. Yes, modeling pics, those are normally always retouched, but just a picture of me like at my house…..No. If the picture looks flawless it is probably the lighting! Lighting when taking a photo is so important and can change the picture drastically. A photo can even change so much just with having the flash on or off, so say you take a photo with your Iphone with the flash and it’s not nice and makes you feel washed out, turn the flash off and see how it looks. Also, if you are around bright lights, the lighting will always be harsher and so your flaws will show more prominently. If you are in a room with nice lighting you will notice your face looks perfect. This is the lighting. Why do you suppose photographers use lighting when taking pictures, it’s the same thing just on a different scale! :) Ok I’m blabbering! :) Enjoy Loves and good luck! You’re all beautiful! XOXO KJ

Hello My loves! I can’t believe how long it’s been since my last entry…..I am sorry I’ve neglected this. I have been to Dublin, Scotland, England, Italy, France, and Dubai since my last post…..Geesh I’m a traveler. (No, not like a gypsy!) ha……Anyway, Since I am now 24….wow…..It’s weird to say that. I’m one year older, therefore, I am going to be blogging like a 24 year old……Ha! Ok I actually don’t know how a 24 year old would even blog compared to a 23 year old but anyway……I will be writing shorter but more frequent entries. I feel I always have something on my mind or some kind of rant but I never write it because I feel it’s not a long enough idea, but since this is my page I will write what I want to! So expect more entries but maybe not novels like my previous ones have been unless it’s something I really want to vent about! ;) Any comments or feedback is always appreciated as it helps me, also any ideas you’d like me to discuss. Let me know! Ok everyone!

New age, new outlook on life! I swear I mature so much each year. I always think “Gosh, I am so mature and really know everything now” HA! Then each year I look back and think, “O dear, I was such a little know it all” I have to say my biggest change has been from 22 to 24……..It was like a whole leap, but in a wonderful way! :) Anyway, Life is great! I’m so happy and wow, The last like 2 years I’ve truly forgotten what it’s like to be sad or upset for the most part. I have a wonderful partner who is amazing to me and have found my real and true friends….I’ve let go of relationships that didn’t make me a better person or build me up and shaken off “unrealiable” or “false” friends…..Life is Grrrreat! :) Happy Friday everyone!! Keep smiling, Sometimes just loves you and your beautiful smiles!!!! XOXO KJ

Sorry it’s taken me awhile to write this 2nd blog. I’ve been busy myself trying to get my mini body toned so I don’t look like a gaunt, pale freak on the beach in Dubai next month! ha, BUT that’s another story!
Ok so first off, whoever tells you that you need tons of cardio is wrong. I hate cardio, always have. I hate it so much. I’m not saying that you won’t get results as you def. will but let’s be honest, cardio sucks, it’s boring and after 2 weeks of the same routines your body will plateau and you will stop losing any weight. So I think 10 min warm ups are good enough if you are like me and hate cardio!

I’m going to be posting some videos soon of different work outs and moves with weights soon, ha, I just honestly need to learn how to post photos and videos on here….Yes, I know…I’m not very computer blog savvy….O well, can’t be great at everything I suppose.

Ok so back to the work out! So for me…….I basically go to the gym and start up with 10 min of cardio just to warm up….on the treadmill or elliptical…then I go on to my work out which mostly consists of weight training and abs. For sculpted arms I do dumb bell press and curls…..3×15, then I move to dumb bell rows and tricep curls as that is the most important thing most women want to tone is the tricep or the back of your arm. Then I do butterflies…See to be honest…..I don’t even want to tell you what to do because most of you won’t even really know what I’m talking about….so I’m not going to waste my breath and just post some videos next month when I’m fit and tan from my beach vacation! hehe.

Squats and Lunges are great for your legs and booty and also pilates will help. You can also youtube videos “How to tone your booty” etc…..You can find fricken everything on youtube these days! Again, I’m not gonna give you a list of all the routines as some things I don’t even know the names of and demos are def. better!

For abs…..Well you all know how to get abs….and if you think you doing 100 crunches a night while eating garbage is gonna give you abs, you are very wrong. You WILL not get a great stomach if you aren’t putting in the effort with good nutrition…..You don’t have to be a saint but you can’t be eating nasty BK and eating brownies!!!!

Swimsuit season is quickly approaching! Let’s get your buns in shape and quick! If you have any questions I can personally respond to them if you comment and help you but I don’t want to blabber too much as I will just show you with videos as it’s easier and I think will be more beneficial. Ok Thanks my loves for reading! :) And remember Lay off the Red Meat and Fast food and alcohol! Again, those are HUGE tips for losing weight! :)

Also to all you scared to comment, I don’t get your emails so if you want to be anonymous that’s fine too! :) XOXO KJ